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May 30Liked by Sonya Spillmann

I love this idea of taking the time to empty your emotional cup… I honestly have never thought of intentionally doing that?! So wise. Thanks for sharing, Sonya ❤️

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sharing what I've learned ... not my idea but I do love it! Thanks for reading Megan!

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May 30Liked by Sonya Spillmann

“What would it be like to lift that lever up and instead of sloshing my big emotions all over the place from up top, I willingly let it drain and drain and drain from the bottom?”

Whoa. I’m going to be thinking about this for a long time.

Sending lots of love to you. What a gift to have people who already know why this change has so many layers. ❤️

I have no idea what kind of state I will be in when our only kiddo leaves. I was doing grief math (iykyk) the other day, and realized that when she graduates high school I will be the age my dad was when he died. What a fun time that will be!🫠

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oh Mary ... grief math. I've never heard it phrased like that but OH MY GOODNESS I know ... I KNOW. Wow. Thank you for reading!

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I think I heard it phrased that way during Anderson Cooper’s interview with Stephen Colbert on All There Is (Anderson’s podcast on grief). It also might be my favorite conversation about grief, especially when losing a parent as a child, that I’ve heard yet.

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“I don’t know what you’re going through right now. But I just wanted to share this in case you need the permission, or encouragement, or acknowledgment that what you’re managing in life is big. And hard. Or sad, or so very complicated.”

**cries in airport by departure gate, for a just for me trip to visit a college friend**

what a gift to read these words and give ourselves permission to feel our feelings and empty ourselves.

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Oh Alyssa ... have a wonderful, restful trip. I really do pray it will be exactly what you need.

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May 30Liked by Sonya Spillmann

So much wisdom—I love that imagery of emptying our emotional cups.

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Thank you Ruth. It's easier said than done, but worth trying, right? Thank you for reading my friend.

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I so needed this today. And I am definitely in need of some emptying out. 💕💫

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I'm glad it met you when you needed it. Empty away... 💕

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May 30Liked by Sonya Spillmann

Oh Sonya! I can definitely see why it would all feel like so much. I was in that “full cup” mode 2-3 years ago for sure and I remember being SO overwhelmed when people asked anything of me. I did not have the added layer of still processing grief and illness and all of that. Sending you a big hug right now and grateful for your words.

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Thank you so much Joy.

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May 30Liked by Sonya Spillmann

Such wise words! I love to journal and get my thoughts out in written prayer or poems or something but I like the description of how it's actually emptying that emotional cup. All the best with all the feelings!

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Thank you Kym. I'd never thought of it like that either and it really has helped me! Good for you for already having this practice!

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I'll be keeping that concept of intentionally emptying my cup with me. Thanks for sharing your learned and experienced wisdom <3

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The loss from your past colliding with the loss of a child actively leaving home...I can't imagine how heavy that is to wade through these days. I'm wishing for you to have so much grace and compassion for yourself. I'm walking through a heavy season of loss, too, and the process of actively grieving is HARD. So much love to you Sonya.

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This. I'm not in the same season as you, but you definitely put to words what I couldn't figure out how to explain. Love you.

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